My mom died of Alzheimer last year and my dad was diagnosed with stage 6 last year as well. He also had a pacemaker put in last year. My siblings do not want to look after dad, so I have decided to give up what little life I used to have to take care of dad because I cannot afford frail care for him. My partner is exceptionally unhappy as he cannot leave the US to help me help dad. My dad lives in South Africa and I want the best for him, but basically I do not know what I am in for. I saw how bad he was when I went home for mom's funeral. Currently my son is caring for him until I get back there. I looked after both parents for 20 years before I came to the US. I came to the US because they have better medical care here which I was unable to get in South Africa. I have Oesteosarcoma. Though I have a home here, I do not have sufficient funds to bring my dad to America and get him care here. So I have to go back to South Africa and look after dad until he is gone. Right now he is incontinent, doesn't remember much of anything. Cannot bathe himself or dress himself, eats anything even foods he shouldn't, nobody can take him shopping because he shoplifts or eats the products in the store forgetting that we need to pay for it, he is content to sit and watch TV all day and watch anything even the ads. He used to know how to use various gadgets like remotes or CD players or iPad for skype calls, but no longer. I had to take the car away from him last year. He knows how to drive but never knows where he ends up or how to call home so someone can find him. He never gets angry about anything. He is mostly docile, kind and gentle and thats the worst part. I want him to get mad and fight this problem. I have to be practical about this issue. I adore my dad, and somebody needs to take care of him. Therefor the onus is on me to leave my life, my long time partner, my beloved home in the US. My friends and my medical help to go back to Africa to take care of my dad. Because nobody else will except my son and I. He is 83.