My dad lives alone and we want him to move in with us so we can care for him but he doesn't. My dad is 80 years old and was diagnosed with diabetes about 15 years ago. I talk to him regularly on the phone but seldom visit as he lives about 5 states away.
Over the last year through some of the clues I'd get from our phone conversations I'd began to worry that he was losing his memory to an unhealthy level so I did a welfare check on him last month and found that pretty much everything he had was disconnected/discontinued including his Water (my first clue was when his phone was disconnected and I had to take over the payments of it and get it reconnected).
It was a pretty sad visit seeing the squaler that he was living in after not having running water for 8 months or garbage picked up or even a fridge that worked to a healthy level.
Me and my family spent our whole vacation cleaning his house, taking over his bills and getting things reconnected and renewed (like his driver's license and insurance). We inspected his medications and found that he'd been off of his insulin for probably about a year but seemed in great physical health (he walks 3-6 miles a day every day unless it rains).
OK enough background, here's the nitty-gritty of the quest. We want to move him to our place but he really doesn't want to move. He, for some reason, loves being at his own house and wants to die there. While I appreciate and respect his desires, he's just not taking care of himself.
Since he doesn't remember pretty much anything from day to day (ie he didn't remember my family's week long visit 2 days after we left). My evil plot was to get him to "visit" us on vacation and then just keep telling him that he's going home "next week" with "next week" never coming.
Can something like this hold up? Or, will his mind eventually discover that "next week" isn't on the agenda?