MIL has dementia. Has needed 24 hr supervision for 6 years. The first 5 we provided with limited help from caregivers to help with showering. Last year, she was moved to level 1 nursing care. She is private pay and it is costing a fortune- 11K per month. She has assets but they are fast dwindling. She is 98 and very frail, but she continues. I’m very afraid she will outlive her money and be left to go on Medicaid which will be very difficult for my husband to face.
just venting.... I know there is no real answer to this question. It seems so wrong for people to be left to become merely a body with no humanity remaining.
One other hint I learned from this forum is to watch her decline. If she changes from month to month, she probably has months left. If you see a decline each week she probably has weeks left. If day to day decline, it probably can be measured in days. This was spot on in my case. All hard to deal with, whether fast or slow.
So sorry that you have to deal with this, take care and keep posting, it will help.