Falling anywhere is difficult, falling in the shower is difficult X10 because he will be wet and naked. Call EMS and explain what has happened and ask for assistance.
(BTW, do you have adequate grab bars, no slip mats and a good shower chair?)
If he ends up on the floor or in the hospital because of a fall he may change his tune. And DON'T try to pick him up by yourself, you will hurt yourself and then who will care for him?
diamondlee - A friend of my mother fell in the shower, hit her head hard, then had a stroke, and was hospitalized. After that, she became paralyzed from the waist down and was confined to a wheelchair. Her arms became weak and she couldn't feed herself or do much of anything else. That was 10 years ago and she still lives. So, tell your husband this could be his future if he fell.
Another idea, if he has fallen in the shower/bathtub, let out all the water, place many towels (a washerload full) around him and under him as he rests. Dry him off, let him dry himself off, and keep him there until the shower and hubs drys. Use a bathroom heater to keep him warm. Bring him some orange juice, or apple juice. 4 oz. in a plastic cup. Try 1/2 cup coffee too. He is going to have to get up on his own if he doesn't want 911 called. Get up in stages. TRY showering at a better time of the day, when he feels stronger. Give him nutrients before he gets in the shower. Try supplements advised by his doctor. The reason I suggest he rest and get dried off in there is that some illnesses like parkinsons, the person can recover a weakness after resting, or massaging their legs. So you both need to discover why he is falling. imo.
Yes, do get the shower chair but skip the suction grab bars, they tend to let go without warning. On another thread someone mentioned taking a cheap walker into the shower, not something I would normally recommend but better than nothing. Another option is to pay for an outside caregiver to supervise his shower time, generally an outsider can get someone to do things that family can not.
Only a trained person should try picking up someone from a floor. He may have to fall and have an EMS help him. It may embarrass him enough to agree to a shower chair and railings. Why don't you get a chair and the temporay suction railings and say they r for you. Then if he starts too fall they r there.
Diamond, have you considered, or do you think he'd agree to no rinse products for bathing instead of a full immersion experience? It's a lot safer to just use the no rinse products and not even deal with getting in and out of a shower, especially if he refuses to use a chair, and if there are no grab bars. That's a recipe for disaster.
He sounds like such a sweetie, take him outside and squirt him off with the hose!
Omg, did I just say that? I meant, when it gets warmer, install an outside shower like RV's have, draw the curtain, and if he falls, hopefully the grass will be soft enough. He doesn't even have to remove his clothes if you squirt through them.
My real answer is that he is fairly young, get him a full workup by his doctor and find out why his legs give out on him.
(BTW, do you have adequate grab bars, no slip mats and a good shower chair?)
Remodeling the shower to be handicap accessible, and able to enter in a wheelchair may be next, if he is to stay home.
Call your senior center for advice and help. There are companies that do a whole house assessment for handicapp accessibility.
Omg, did I just say that? I meant, when it gets warmer, install an outside shower like RV's have, draw the curtain, and if he falls, hopefully the grass will be soft enough. He doesn't even have to remove his clothes if you squirt through them.
My real answer is that he is fairly young, get him a full workup by his doctor and find out why his legs give out on him.
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