I've also looked into this and can't find the discrepancy you mentioned. Perhaps you misread something you came across on the site? If you can provide some additional information, I'd be happy to investigate further!
Below is the link to a question where BooMcVister posted a reply to which s/he got 4 votes for Helpful Answer. Nowhere in that thread did I see any reply from Cherokeegrrl54.
Boo- perhaps you were mistaken.
(Gosh! I had nothing better to do than to search for Boo's post. Sigh... I'd better sign off for the night.)
BooMcVicker Apr 18, 2022 Dear Friend, I do not have this issue (yet), but I am my mom's sole caregiver and have been for many years. I have two siblings; my brother lives in the same state, only about 25 miles away and my sister lives in NYC. They have not helped in any way. I have my mom's POA and I'm so happy to hear that you have your mother's.
I assume your mom has a will? If not, you two should talk to an elder care lawyer immediately. It's fortunate that your mom has the means to pay for her care, but I can also see your selfish siblings wanting those means to not decrease so they can get more money. The things your brothers ask about your mom's "value" is unimaginable. I sense that you have not told your mom about these questions and comments. I don't know your specific relationship with her, but if I were in your shoes, I would tell her and reveal how awful it makes you feel. If she's so smart, she'll support you. Who knows? Maybe she'll want to amend her will? At the very least I hope you all can have a conversation about this. Bring in a mediator, if need be. Above all, remember this:
Brothers have been torturing sisters all over the world, in every country and for too many years.
Admins: Reporting so you can address the concern of this poster, McVickers.
BooMcVicker: You can address any questions directly to the admins. Give them complete information with links to the particular question you are asking about. You can often get their attention by drawing a comment to "Admins:" as I did here, and then REPORTING your own question. The admins on AgingCare are VERY responsive. Good luck for tracing things down for yourself.
I've also looked into this and can't find the discrepancy you mentioned. Perhaps you misread something you came across on the site? If you can provide some additional information, I'd be happy to investigate further!
Boo- perhaps you were mistaken.
(Gosh! I had nothing better to do than to search for Boo's post. Sigh... I'd better sign off for the night.)
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/how-do-i-respond-to-my-brothers-hurtful-questions-474329.htm?orderby=recent
BooMcVicker
Apr 18, 2022
Dear Friend,
I do not have this issue (yet), but I am my mom's sole caregiver and have been for many years. I have two siblings; my brother lives in the same state, only about 25 miles away and my sister lives in NYC. They have not helped in any way. I have my mom's POA and I'm so happy to hear that you have your mother's.
I assume your mom has a will? If not, you two should talk to an elder care lawyer immediately. It's fortunate that your mom has the means to pay for her care, but I can also see your selfish siblings wanting those means to not decrease so they can get more money. The things your brothers ask about your mom's "value" is unimaginable. I sense that you have not told your mom about these questions and comments. I don't know your specific relationship with her, but if I were in your shoes, I would tell her and reveal how awful it makes you feel. If she's so smart, she'll support you. Who knows? Maybe she'll want to amend her will?
At the very least I hope you all can have a conversation about this. Bring in a mediator, if need be. Above all, remember this:
Brothers have been torturing sisters all over the world, in every country and for too many years.
Best of luck,
Boo
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Reporting so you can address the concern of this poster, McVickers.
BooMcVicker: You can address any questions directly to the admins. Give them complete information with links to the particular question you are asking about.
You can often get their attention by drawing a comment to "Admins:" as I did here, and then REPORTING your own question.
The admins on AgingCare are VERY responsive.
Good luck for tracing things down for yourself.