My brother in law is at the end of his rope. Father in law is stubborn. My BIL works bar tender hours and has a teenage daughter with visitation rights. My FIL is no longer capable of looking after himself, but doesn't believe he needs or maybe more likely doesn't want to pay, to go into a care facility. FIL has severe mobility issues and is stage 4 prostrate cancer, so he needs to wear a diaper.
The situation for my BIL is highly stressful. He's coming home after long hours to find poop everywhere. To make matters worse, they live in NH we are in TX.
My BIL is at breaking point. Any advice is helpful.I think my husband and I should get Power of Attorney over FIL and move him to TX were there are more people to share the burden.