I'm gonna start with a little background information.
Father is 83 yrs old. and currently in the local VA Home. The POA that I have is not strong enough to hold him there so hte VA tells me. He is coded through the VA Home as having Moderate Independent decision making impairment. Which in short means that sometimes he can make good judgments and others he is completely lost on. He has been on a feeding tube for almost a year now due to getting pneumonia twice after having a stroke which affected his swallowing. (Which has been discontinued per him eating baby foods and not having any problems with it) He has dementia, Parkinson's, Macular degeneration which has caused him to be blind in 1 eye and going blind in the other eye, chronic heart problems and kidney problems. I have had 3 different doctors tell me that he can not under no uncertain terms drive any more and those 3 also told me he is not to live alone. But he still thinks there is nothing wrong with him.
The 2 lawyers I've spoken with say that I will have to be bonded in the amount of his assets, pay insurance on that bond, and go to court every month showing what I've spent his money on. Mind you now, I have 4 kids of my own that I have to chase after ranging in ages 2-14 and I am his only child. And they also said that the judge may not appoint me to be his guardian. If I had not of had the health care proxy he would have died last year because there was no one to say put in the feeding tube. This guardianship mumbo-jumbo seems a bit un-real to me. So, I'm hoping that someone who has walked this path can help me validate this information I was given.
I'm totally lost and wondering if I'm gonna survive the stress of all this.