How I handle my narcissistic elder ill silent treatment abuse?

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She has a brain tumor, fortunately the tumor was not causing health problems. Although, after a year of taking care of her(24/7), I decided to go back and find a job, and, find another sentimental relationship, and to look for new friends too. Since, without even noticed it, Last, February 2015, I lost my job, I got far away from my two friends, and I broke up with my fiancé. Then, this February 2016, I decided to find a caregiver for her, since I was determined to get my life back. Shortly after, my mother decided to stop eating, I had to took her to the hospital and they have to put her a feeding tube, she also refused to walk, so now she is suffering from the consequences of being in bed. The doctors decided to send her to a nursing home, temporary, although, I am an only child, with no family or significant other's help. She has been in the nursing home for a month, since then, she stopped talking to me. I feel confused, angry, sad, mad, betray, abuse... and don't know what to do about it???

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The brain tumor is probably progressing. Have they recommended Hospice care? Not eating is an end sign. Feeding tubes will only buy you a short amount of time.
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gema, you are doing what you can. If your mother decides to be angry because she is not home, then it is her emotion. You can only do what you are able to do. If she is not able to walk and needs 24/7 care, she is in the best place possible. Few of us would be able to care for someone under those conditions. Having several caregivers working in shifts makes a lot more sense.
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Is she upset that she has to be in a nursing home?

Have you spoken to the staff? Does your mom talk to them?

Keep visiting her. If she's upset about being there she needs your support, even if she doesn't talk to you. Take a book or a magazine with you and just sit with her and read or do some other activity.
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