How can I encourage Mom to accept caregivers from agency so I can get a break?

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Mom has moderate dementia, although she is very physically fit. She's in complete denial most of the time about her abilities and recently moved in with me after her husband of 34 years passed away. We had a caregiver for four hours the other day, but I tagged along. My plan was to continue to tag along and gradually back out and have the caregivers more often. Mom insists she doesn't need a babysitter and I tell her that it's help for me because I will have to start going back to work soon. Any success stories of bringing in caregivers to a reluctant dementia parent???

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Keep stressing how this is for YOU. You'll worry that Mom will be lonely,,,,you could use some help with some of the chores,,,,it would be a big favor to you if Mom will accept a companion,,,,Some of your success will be in the caregiver's personality, too. If Mom enjoys talking to and being around the caregiver,,,it will seem less like a "babysitter" and more like a companion.

Good luck!
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Even I too faced the same situation, but succeeded at last. My advice is talk to your mother about the situation and convinces her by saying uses and needs of the caregiver.
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I agree. Mom may kick and scream a bit at first but like assandache said, she'll adjust and probably even come to enjoy the attentiveness from the caregiver. When we keep our elderly parents at home sacrifices have to be made.
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Whatever you do DON'T get rid of caregiver... Mom will adjust..
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The majority of elderly are convinced they don't need a babysitter. Start by telling mom that the caregiver is a house cleaner, anything that YOU need. The person is helping you, make it about you and not your mom's need for care.
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