How does someone afford the best cancer treatment on Medicare without wiping out your entire savings? My husband age 79 has a tumor on his right lung that is thought have spread to his left 10th rib (bone destruction). Several enlarged lymph nodes in this chest. Lung Biopsy on Monday. He also has been in a walker since he lost the use of his legs 3 yrs ago. I'm only 62 and not in great health myself ( rare autoimmune disease that painful). We have 2 15 yr old disabled dogs. It's hard for me to care for my dogs and my husband since I'm in constant pain and suffer from chronic anxiety and depression which I'm being treated for but lately it's hasn't been helping. We live conservatively because he knows I will need to survive on his 401k. Right now I purchase health insurance at group rates through the company he worked for, but only if he's alive. Buying health insurance on the open market will be unaffordable for me given my age and not being eligible for Medicare yet. I'm not entitled to any of his retirement checks from previous jobs, because he activated his retirement at age 59 and he was married to his previous wife when he did that. Under federal law she would get his retirement. So his 401k is what I would have to live on. We have been married for 19 yrs. My fear is and his fear too, is in order for him to get treatment for his cancer, it will wipe out our savings and I will have nothing to live on. I'm scared to death of losing the love of my life, but I want the best possible treatment for him, but I'm so afraid of how I'm going to be able to live if our finances get wiped out . He has about 200k in his 401 and I have a small IRA . I feel guilty for even being concerned about myself, especially if he chooses not to be treated because he doesn't want me to worry about how I'm going to survive. He's like..a very unselfish man. I don't know how much his treatment will cost and I realize it all depends on how long he will need treatment for and what kind. I really just wanted to vent here and don't expect much advice. I just have no family or friends to lean on to even have help caring for him in our home and I know what nursing homes cost of it gets to the point where I can't care for him. I know I need to trust God and I'm constantly praying for His Peace and trying to give all my burdens to him, but I keep taking it back if I feel overwhelmed. Can anyone else relate?