My 94 yr old father has a foley catheter because of urinary retention and is currently in a skilled rehab on private pay. He has been in extreme discomfort for at least 3 days and they have changed it 2-3 times already. I just called him now to see how he is doing and he said "pray for me to die because of this pain". I called nurse and they are going to try again with smaller cath. I am now sitting here feeling so bad and not knowing what to do next. I have talked to everyone there about this in the last few days and it does not seem to be getting better. I asked if they could give him something more for pain and they said they were going to call the doctor. If it were incontinence, I would say leave it and deal with the diaper. But unfortunately it is not that issue and staff will have to go in a few times a day and get urine out and that will be a nightmare! Any ideas? Am I wrong to think that this problem has an answer? Or should I just move on to pain management and see where this is headed? He fell in Sept, has lost a lot of weight and has not responded well to any treatment the last few months. I really do not know what to say or do when I go visit today......very frustrating to see him like that.