Many times I read posts that say, I can't stand my mom, although I love her. I don't understand that. I don't love my mom. She's always been difficult, controlling and a perfectionist. I can tolerate her in small doses but have no feelings of love. My older sister feels the same way about our mom as I do. I don't hate her, I just don't enjoy her joy sucking attitude on life. My friend says she feels the same way about her dad and thinks it is because she grew up in such a disfunctional home. Any thoughts?