I'm really struggling to keep things together and have very little support. I live in the UK but my situation is not location specific. I'm sure it's a common issue.
My mother is very independent (an alternative word for stubborn) and she argues even before she hears what I have to say. I try my best to respect her individuality but her logic is beyond reason. She's no longer my mother but my Nemesis and 90% of conversations end in conflict. I can only walk away so many times before we end up arguing.
I keep telling myself she looked after me when I couldn't do it for myself. I feel I owe her the same respect, but I now have lost all social life, work, interest and motivation.
I’ve lost all contact with my teenage daughter because she couldn’t handle the atmosphere and my commitment to my mother. My grandchildren (from another relationship) do well to put up with it once a week but they know it’s a crazy world I live in.
It has caused friction between me and my sisters (who have their own interests as priority) and I'm annoyed that my mother's illness spreads further than her own mind.
I’m depressed and struggle against self-medication. I have my own medical issue that go ignored and zero social life.
I really want people (and health authorities) to realise that old age, dementia and the care of parents is a disease that spreads far wider than the people who have already lived their lives.
It takes the experience of caring to really understand the implications of longevity and how it impacts all family members.
For some of us, and all too often for just one person, the question must be considered; When does it become too much?