Alzheimer's and dementia runs in the family. I am the caregiver to my 87 year old godmother who has been like my mom my whole life since my own mother had mental illness problems. Since we all moved to FL last November, she has gone down hill very quickly, with toileting, she wears depends and pads, but most of the time when I take her to the bathroom she is already wet, but yet there are times she gets up and goes on her own and does fine. She is also falling more ofter, 2 times in the last 2 months. She uses a walker, but she loses her balance. I am afraid when she has to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night and since her last fall I have gotten a baby monitor. She sometimes is up 2-3 times a night and I am losing sleep and when she does fall, she does not remember she has the First Alert button to even press it. The company has just sent me the new one that is suppose to detect falls, but they told me it always does not work. When I go to check on her and help her to the bathroom, she stares at me as if she does not know who I am, then a few minutes later she will say "Is that you Deb". Then there are other times she seems more alert. She cannot be left alone at all any more, and my partner and I have not had any time away to just go have fun for almost a year! We are both going to be 60 soon and are disabled ourselves with bad back problems and we do have home health aides come to the house to bathe and dress her for 2 hrs in the morning. I was also advised to purchase bed rails for her craftmatic bed, but I am afraid she will try to crawl out over them! I have asked her not to get out of bed and call out my name and I will come and help her, but she only did that for 2 nights and stopped. When I asked her why she did not call me, she said she forgot.
Do you think taking her to an adult day care 1-2 times a week would help her to get out around people her own age? I am also looking for respite care so my boyfriend and I can go out on a date or maybe even go away for a weekend!
Her father had dementia, and her younger brother just dies of Alzheimer's just after we moved to FL. I was a nurse and worked in a nursing home when I was younger, that is how I hurt my back. I also worked for the ARC, so I am aware of working with the elderly. But this is getting difficult when doing it 24/7. Any suggestions would be very grateful and helpful!