He does things that wants to do even if it will hurt others financially down the line or even hurt himself financially (Medicaid lookback - he is 93, and may someday need it). He lies, he obfuscates. When he gets caught, he then turns into a big baby to whoever will listen with his "woe is me" tales of feeling useless and a burden, etc. He really does get himself very worked up. In this way, he tries to deflect any criticism away from him, I believe. People feel sorry for him and then I usually become the bad guy. Is that a personality disorder?