Sorry for the long post---My stepmother has Parkinson's and dementia and in October 2018 I moved in with my father to help take care of her because she started not allowing him to take her to the bathroom or give her a shower, etc. Since I have been here things have gotten drastically worse. She is 100% dependant for everything except walking. She walks around and talks nonsense to herself all day and night. She has had a few major seizures and has minor ones frequently throughout the day. She refuses her medication. We switched to liquid to try to put it in ensure or other drinks, or applesauce, but usually she can taste it and won't drink it. Some days she eats, but never very much. I have tried discussing options with my dad for assistance but he refuses to admit he needs help. I am a mother of 2 and work full time and am in school so I cannot provide the amount of help he needs. He is 73, diabetic, has had heart issues previously and now he is never sleeping because she is never sleeping. Anytime I bring up having a caregiver come or assisted living places he immediately gets defensive and says he can take care of her himself. Sometimes he loses his patience and gets mad at her for not being able to feed herself or pouring her drink out because she literally is just gone mentally, and he says he isn't going to let her become an invalid, even though he knows that's where this road leads. I am going to be moving out in the next couple of months and just wonder how I can make him see he needs professionals. She won't let me shower her either anymore and I refuse to forcefully take her clothes off and make her shower. He does it, but she fights back and he ends up looking like he got into a fight because he is on blood thinners so he bruises and bleeds very easily. I've never dealt with these illnesses before and just feel at a total loss. I don't know what to expect or how to help and need some guidance. Any advice or stories that relate would be much appreciated.