For example: Last year we talked to momma for two months on how we were going to handle christmas that year. Since she just went into assisted living and was recovering from sublateral hemotomos we didn't think she could handle christmas shopping so we decided to still exchange gifts - like we have done for the past 60 years - but she would just give extra money. Well - there we are christmas eve - I have my presents - and nobody had any for us! We sat there and watched everybody open up their presents. Then momma said "where are your presents"? I almost blew a gasket. By the end of the night siblings knew that momma messed up. Yes she did - but what hurt me the most is that my siblings didn't even send me a text message or phone call to check on me to see if I was alright or say "hey, so sorry that happened" - "are you ok"? Nothing. Due to other events that have happened over the last couple of years involving money. I am POA, Trustee and everything else - I feel like my siblings did not reach out to me for spite. Needless to say husband and I are not having christmas with everybody over there. Now we are going to drive over and see momma - take her out to dinner and I will have something for her but I have no desire to be around my siblings. Also the last two previous years before this one - momma pretty much messed up on those. I know she can't help it but siblings should know that momma has some medical issues. They are more concerned about their inheritance then anything - always have been. It is sad.