My 67 year old sister lives with me, my brother and my son. She has a diabetic foot ulcer and now because of her bad circulation has 2 more sores on her toes. She is in constant pain and when they prescribe her pain meds, she finishes them too fast because they do not work.
She is waiting for an appointment with a doctor who will unblock the veins in her legs which will allow healing but in the meantime she was seeing a wound care doctor every week but the Caremore clinic she goes to have closed temporarily due to virus situation and sent her home with supplies for us to do the treatment ourselves.
The problem with her has been she does not take the doctors advice, for instance, the foot doctor told her to keep moving for circulation and actually wants her to walk around on her foot but she refused to do that because of the pain so the doctor suggested for her to do bicycle type exercises while sitting but she won't even do that. She will only do it if a physical therapist came over to make her do it which she had at one point with her previous insurance and as of January Medicare put her on an HMO Caremore which does not cover home health care.
Her regular doctor has instructed her to change her diet drastically to keep her sugar down which she did eliminate what she was eating before and lost 5 lbs but she is supposed to eat 3 meals a day and she just won't.
The problem I have with her is I cannot say anything to her about what the doctors told her to do or anything or she starts yelling at me telling me to quit trying to run her life and we end up in a big argument. She is exactly like our mother but worse. We have been living together for the past 10 years and I finally had to start staying in my room and not associate with her as much as possible but I have to take her to all her doctor appointments and pick up her prescriptions. Her health has been declining since 2014 and sometimes it is just too much to bear but I have no other choice. On top of it she is starting to have mental decline and does not remember anything I say so it is very frustrating.
BTW, my brother is 62 and bi-polar and is very difficult as well, and, my son is schizophrenic but gives me the least problems.
I just worry that the stress I have to deal with will cause me to have health problems and I never have time to go to a doctor myself. I got new insurance when we moved from California to Nevada in May 2019 for my job and have not been able to use it yet.
That is all, my venting is done!