I am a caregiver for my father-in-law.Both his son and myself live with him 24/7 (except his son works 10 hours a day.) This means I am with my Father-in-law all day.I am his cook,housekeeper,laundry person,caregiver,and Secretary.He is mentally alert to pay his own bills.He believes that $1200 is enough for me(he gets a grant of $1800.)But because I also pay for his food needs a my bills this makes it hard.I have been working a part time job,just for extra money.This is wearing me down enough that last December I had a TIA.So now I have hospital bills too.Any ideas?Sorry for whining.I just want to relax a little.
At the end of all this, you get left with a figure out of the $1200 that is what he is paying to you for care. Check out the hours of care you are providing, and how much an hour you are being paid. Then show it to him with the local rates for care. Ask him what he wants to cut down on so that you are paid a reasonable local rate. You are never going to agree while it is all so complicated and vague. Do the sums.
His son is your DH? What is his role in the money? If he is out of the house for 10 hours a day, he doesn’t see what you actually do. He should be part of tackling his father.
How did you come to an agreement on the wage you would receive?
It sounds as though this is not a good job for you; do you and your DH have the wherewithal to move out?