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He wants to go to the assisted living girlfriend is in. But afraid we are going to need a nursing facility due to his inability of being mobile.

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I would try to use the reasonable approach that he doesn't want to put all his eggs in one basket and it never hurts to apply for more than one place, then if a space opens at a different facility then you tell him it is just temporary until there is an opening near his GF, or that perhaps she'll move to be with him. (By the way, is this a recent relationship or have they been together log term?)
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Know its harsh but if he's difficult and won't comply it may take a crisis to put him somewhere to meet his needs.
I was at wits end when my Father was at home and refusing everything to help him. A physiotherapist who dealt with him but he refused her help gave me that advice. A crisis did happen. He went in to hospital and straight to residential care.
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If the facility can't meet his needs, then they won't accept him. Or, if they do, and then they see that they are not able to meet his needs, they'll inform him he must find another place. Reasoning with someone who has dementia, getting them to accept explanations, coaxing, etc. usually doesn't work. Their ability to use proper judgment is being eroded, so, it may be that he won't accept it. But, if they won't let him in, he'll have no other choice.

Depending on his stage, could he regain any mobility with physical therapy? If so, that might help him qualify to get into AL. You could check that out.
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