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I'm back, from bkdwn, but it was bad...not mean or abusive to myself or patient or anyone.....in fact, I told Daddy to call sisters and hid myself downstairs, to try not to upset my Daddy who I love more than life and now that after 3 solid years of me only, 3 shifts a day....abandoning my boyfriend-stage 3 colo-rectal cancer surviver (with unspeakable complications) (and I would do it all again, I love my Dad). But my guy had to suffer worse and come to me apox. 6 citys away, for his care....everyday. My sisters, 3 of them, well, they should have supported me and my dads descision. I need a caretaker myself, I have Multiple Scleurosis (ppms-painful, stressful, extreme fatigue....but im tough. I guess not tough enough, in fairness to me...I was loaded down with threats like, come on mary....stroke out... By my sister on dr day....and I'm Only one who Ever went in dr office with him, until they took over....him....house...finances....kicked me out. The last 3 years have entailed a meeting of. dad and my heart and soul (dad and i) i treasure..im worried sick about him now. They have 1 interest....their inheritance(His $, probably not anymore....they are evil) they allready borrowed multi thou's.....not little sis.....SHE IS COMPLETELY INNOCENT. I need aftercare...potassium, fluids, a rest(sht) im homeless, even tho I live legally with dad, if I go th Er te, even to get my coat, shoes, and purse...THEY WILL ABUSE HIM. i know i have rights but No Way am i putting my Dad thru That. They have me right where they want me(eccept where they Thought they could put me(after being chased and tied down hard in hospital based on flat out lies out if sisters) well Praise God for that justice....still homeless, all things at dads...and them who wont let me over...legally they cant stop me, but my Dad could not handle that and I won't help them in their evil wishes of demise and ill gotten gains...so sad. Baby Sister Innocent Completely....She took care of Mom (ALS)

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I also suffer from MS. I have also been witness to deceitful, greedy will revisions encouraged by family members. This is not easy...you feel betrayed and are very hurt. My husband went through a similar situation when his father died. His family was extremely dysfunctional and always miserable. Although my husband felt betrayed and devastated, he always felt the money was jinxed. He did not contest the will. My advice...difficult as it is...pray for those who hurt you, let go of the anger, or it will destroy you. Try to focus on your blessings. Having MS creates quite the challenge in working through this...but in my heart, I believe there is a reason for everything (good and bad). My belief has helped me get through many difficulties and pain. If necessary, please get professional help. I pray you will work through this, be able to forgive those who hurt you, and receive the peace and happiness you deserve.
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Yikes! You definitely need to take a break from a caustic situation. Firstly, you need to get your feet on the ground, and that means that you let go of the hostility, sorry, but I sense that there has to be past and underlying issues with your sisters. They may have always been real britches, but they may also have good intentions but you can’t get beyond and old hurt. Either way, they’re taking care of dad right now and that’s what it is right now - they have as much right to do so.

the blessing of the situation is that you have been relieved of a heavy burden. If the sisters terrible want to care for dad, and dad is down with it - not much you can do. So use this time and hopefully baby sis can be your best friend.

Get moral support - you need a cheering squad to keep you focused on your goal

Get yourself housed.

Get your stuff - it’s wrongful seizure of property for them to hold it. Make arrangements for them to release to a third party if you have to

get legal advice. If you are certain of, and have evidence of elder abuse then contact senior services. But don’t exhibit that hostility, and that will work against you

i wish you well, stay strong
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Maryaijj Oct 2020
Thank You, so much for caring and direction.
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I’m so sorry that you are struggling with all of this. You have way too much on your plate. No one can endure that much stress.

Do you have NAMI in your area? They can help you sort your emotions out and give you some direction.

You have to care for your own physical and mental health. It is not being selfish. It’s not denying others love. It’s obvious that you love them.

You have shown your love in a million ways. Unfortunately, it cost you a lot of pain and misery. You deserve to love yourself equally to the people that you have cared for.

I am by no means an expert. There are others who are in the medical field that will be able to expand on what you need to know.

Blessings to you. I sincerely hope that your life improves soon. You are in a heartbreaking situation. Again, I am sorry. Don’t give up. Keep reaching out.
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Maryaijj Oct 2020
May God Pour Blessings all over you, every single second. This is kinda like me...only i have(had)3 sisters, whom would rather do away with me(tried to get me instituitionalized allready, from a 33 yr old accident , wher a drunk lilv17 yr old blastede head-on....did not work, thank God. I , aside from my Hero Big Brother in Heaven, have not borrowed 1 dime(i think its awful to do, against there inheritance. I live wit on my less than poverty level means(got hurt young..24...but i survived, i feel awful i couldnt withstand all the hate and no help because i let my Dear Dad down, who is like this from giving his body to Ford Mo. Co. To give us a Beautiful Life. Im out her trying to make it, so he doesnt feel like all his kids are $ minded over love....breaks my heart. He is a Great Man. I cant even 5alk to him properly, their right on top if him. My Prayer is that they live him and make him feel loved. Thanks for listening.

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Mary - I'm bumping up your post so more posters can see and reply.

First of all, I'm sorry for you situation. It sounds so messed up.

Where are staying right now? In your car? At a shelter? If you don't have a roof over your head, you should contact a local women shelter asap to help you. They should have social workers who can help you apply for other assistance or at least give you the info as to where you can go and get more help such as food, medical care, maybe even housing.

Can you stay with your baby sister temporarily until you get on your feet?
Wishing you and your dad the best.
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Maryaijj Oct 2020
Infortunately....all sisters have united against me. Im childless, as well. I have Strong Faith, so im holding on. My potassium is low and i need an M S. Exasurbation, steroid infusion, but the sharks have me too afraid of hospitals now. Im staying and renting with only friends i could find(completely unlivable) please send a Prayer My Way, as im going tondo my best to leave Daddy alone so the distets dint abuse him for helping me...ps...i had an aforable apt...
It took 4 years on a waiting list for...shared rent w/boyfriend, his caregivet too...stage3 colo-rectal tlsirvivoe /w complications. We are at Dr
Right now-its time to check if its still Gone or spread....thanks again for listening. All Prayers(all i got left-most powerful), so much more than appreciated, love mary
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