Yesterday we had a bowel accident and he got it on his hands. He thought washing his hands was running it under warm water. He blew his top when I quietly mentioned he needed to use soap too. Told me I treat him like a baby. Yes, he is in the first stage of dementia. But this has been going on before this. It is grossing me out and can spread germs everywhere. I even put hand sanitizer in his room. He will not use it. Besides this and other mobile issues his son thinks it's time for a nursing home. But he wants to go to the one his lady friend is at. He can not afford it nor can we. Any ideas? I am tired of being yelled at. With him thinking I treat him like a baby, when I remind him about something.