My Mom is only 76 but has been borderline personality all of her life but managed well, taking care of herself, as she is a very smart lady. Recently, she had been having hallucinations, delirium, and memory loss and needed to be in the hospital. She has been taking oxy for pain Klonapin, and antipsychotics for many many years. It turns out she had a really bad UTI that when cleared up she was almost back to being Mom again. She is incontinent so very susceptible to UTI's. She has been back and forth to several hospitals with relapses with behaviors such as hitting herself, spastic movements, yelling out, being nasty, etc. So needless to say she is like a rollercoaster with being my Mom one day and then all that I have described the next with not remembering what day it is or what I said to her a minute ago. The behaviors are now much improved with medication. Could not get a doctor to say Assisted Living or Memory care would be best. No one wanted to commit or give an accurate diagnosis(most likely vascular dementia) so I put her in Assisted Living with Memory care which is like assisted living but is locked with only 12 residents in a small unit. My mother is high functioning and there are many more residents that are worse off and she is having a hard time finding someone like her. So frustrated and it is only the first week but she calls me 20 times saying she is in hell and that I put her away in a nursing home. I don't want to pull her out too soon but so far she is so unhappy. Any ideas as to how long I should wait and see before I look for another solution? I am riddled with guilt over her unhappiness and not taking her myself. My husband and I are teachers for 25 years with no kids and have been planning an early retirement for years. She is physically healthy for the most part except for Arthritis and Macular Degeneration. My Mom is also low income and I was so happy I found an assisted living that takes Mass Health and her social security. Any thoughts?