Losing my mind. We cannot steam clean the carpet enough, it’s simply impossible to keep clean. Doc has his own “suite” with his own bathroom, bedroom and full bath. What he does behind closed doors is beyond me. Yesterday I went to his room to hang up his clothes - by the way, how does a man who stays home every day all day go through more laundry than my two teenagers combined?? Anyway, I step on wet carpet on the side of his bed, and in total disgust, I walk to the other side to remove the bedding, where I step into yet another huge wet spot on the carpet, noticing the yellow staining on the sheet, even down the side of the bed. Unreal. I wanted to throw up. I want to scream just talking about it now! What in God’s name do others do in this situation? How can you stand to live smelling and seeing this every single damned day? As I continued to hang up his million pieces of clothing up in angry tears, all I wondered was if they do this in a nursing home? Do they clean the carpet and bedding immediately with oxy clean and every other measure to combat the smell, stain and germs? Do they wash clothes nonstop and hang them up perfectly? I am truly losing my mind in this never ending battle, and I need to know how others who live with the same issue deal with it. He does not have any infection, does not eat asparagus and yes, we get him depends. From his couch, to the bathroom floor, to the carpet - and he wears his house slippers all over the house - God help me, it makes me so sick that this is my home and this is my father in law. He does not know he has dementia (never been spoken of) and denies incontinence, though that has been brought up at the dr. Little things like when he goes to get coffee and touches the sugar and drawer for a spoon and the coffee pot handle - don’t want him to touch anything. Had to put an “out of order” sign on the half bathroom to prevent him from using that because I’m cleaning endlessly - I’m losing it. Just losing it! Any ideas on how to deal with it until we get him in a home?