First time posting. Hi everyone! I currently work full time and live on the West Coast w/my bf, and my mother lives on the East Coast with my younger sister, who has a family of 4. My mother has multiple chronic conditions (CHF, DM2..), and recently had a major heart attack, thus her care has become more complex, with added new medications, home health nursing care, and more frequent doctor's visits. I am a nurse too, so I have taken up the medical aspect of her care. I have tried my best to coordinate my mother's care, with dr's appointments, with transportation, keep her home health nurses aware of her symptoms, try to keep track of her daily blood sugars and weights and medication regime, and try to make sure she can eat healthy meals, since at this time she doesn't drive.
However, the big problem right now, is that she has always had a strained relationship with my little sister, and this new development has only made it more strained, with the extra care she has been receiving and needing. She is independent with her ADL's, no memory problems, but still, a lot.
Thus I have had to become the mediator and communicator between them both and my sister brings her frustrations with my mother to me (since she has 3 children living in the house with my mother on top of it & her and her husband work full time), and wants immediate solutions, which unfortunately, I cannot give at this particular time.
Any resources that would be helpful for this problem? Or Suggestions? I have seen in research that family meetings may be a good route... Thanks!