I am this close to leaving. She rips up throws away and hides things. She throws a loud temper tantrum at night for several days if I ask nicely for her not to touch my things. I lock them up she finds them. She busted the door to my safe I had my valuables.
My mother doesn't like my fall decorations. At first she denied it but then admitted she was mad the air fryer broke and I looked at her the wrong way so she broke a bunch of my decorations and my ball for the pool and ripped up a yard and something really special my late husband made me because it looked slutty. I am not arguing with her but I am thoroughly sick of this shit.How would you handle it?
It is time to leave. It is time for placement. This either works for the caregiver or it doesn't work at all. Don't allow yourself to become a hostage to this disease, and you become another casualty to it. A caregiver can only go so far with any situation like this one you just described.
I'm so sorry for this distressing situation when you are doing your best to care for her.
I hope you can find out what works for both of you.
You can no longer be her caregiver .
Sometimes family becomes a trigger , and the parent needs to be taken care of by non family .
Home care is usually unsustainable. Your mom has proven it so. I wish you luck in placing her. Don't even think that if you hire home health aides, that will solve the problem. It would only add to your problems because then you'd have aides who don't want to work under such conditions, and you'd have to keep scrambling to find and keep more.
Meds would probably help mom, but you'd be the one who'd have to get her to take them, and that's another hassle.
Good luck, and I hope you are making plans to turn mom's care over to a care facility where they'll know how to handle her.
Please say more. What are the circumstances here?
Are you living with your mothers? If so, for how long?
Is your mother living with you? If so, for how long?
What other problems do you have ongoing.
Is your mother safe to live alone on her own?
Have you considered placement for your mother?
Do you have POA for your mother?
Have you discussed your mother's problematic behaviors with her doctor?
Without information from you I am afraid all I can do is give you my sympathy.
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