I've been caring full time for my 93 year old mom who has severe short term memory loss and very poor eyesight due to macular degeneration. My alcoholic brother lives at home rent free but does work. Yet he offers little in the way of direct help. He recently received a DUI as well. He is in debt up to his ears as well. two other brothers live in other states. They are somewhat supportive and understand the stress I'm under but that's about it.
I've "snapped" several times from the lonelieness and stress. I do see a counselor and that does help.
I am currently looking into placing my mom in a nursing home even though she and my brothers don't want that. Near full time in home help is an option but that would still involve me doing some of the caregiving.
I've not worked in six years. I'm 59 and need to get back to work. I need my life back.