How do you deal with a stepfamily who doesn't care about your or your sisters' opinions on the care for our father who is in end-stage renal failure. I am the second POA for my father (stepmother is first). One of the granddaughters is POA for my stepmother. However, all decisions are being made by the granddaughter for my father's care because she is telling my stepmother that 'family takes care of family'. However, she isn't here to take care of them. I have been the one here the past month doing it all alone. She thinks she can just buy a house here and move them in with her to care for them. The problem is the stepmother is a full-time caring job, let alone now my father is in end-stage renal failure, is wheelchair-bound and goes to dialysis three times a week. He is also susceptible to UTI's, so his personal hygiene is extremely important.
The granddaughter has never even called to discuss the issue with my sisters and me on how we feel and what we think is best for our father and stepmother's care.
My sisters and I feel they would be better suited in assisted living to get the full medical care they need. However, our choices have been taken from us by the granddaughter.
We would put our father in assisted living without her, but we know he is only going through the dialysis for her and would give up if they are separated.
Has anyone else had this problem and do you have any suggestions for resolving it? Feeling isolated with no choices
