I have been caring for my grandmother for almost 4 years now. She recently moved in with me the beginning of July because she could no longer live on her own.... My mother was not in no shape to care for her like she ought too. She doesn’t work, so she has all the free time in the world. I work full time. Her life is in shambles and she is struggling. She dropped all the responsibilities on me, but wants to continue having POA. She is dragging her feet to find the care she needs. I am the contingent. I’m 26 and married and put my life on hold for family quarrels. I am at my witts end to knowing what to do. I have to hold her hand to make sure my grandmother is taken care of properly.
I feel like I made a mistake because I handed the reins over to my mother to take care of my grandmother full time. She doesn’t care for her in the manner I think is suitable for my grandmother. She is stuck in her own little world. I felt like if she can make that huge decision to be my grandmothers POA then she should take full responsibility and quit guilting me into it. I love my grandma so very much I will always and would do anything for her.
As of right now she is staying with my mother and stays with me part time. She all the time tells me she don’t want to be with mom and wants to stay here with me.
How can I help in this situation? What should I do?