My mother is mentally ill. She has been diagnosed as paranoid schizophrenic since back in her 40's. She is 76 now and my Father is 78 and he is her caregiver at this time. He is getting too old and showing signs of dementia. She is very abusive to him at times and relies on him for everything. He is spent and exhausted but doesn't want to be the one to place her in AL because he's too afraid of not looking out for her yet he can't deal with the verbal abuse anymore. My siblings and I know it's a matter of time that she will need to go into AL. Nobody wants this to be their job, but I've been elected since for some reason they say I've always been her "favorite". I'm having all kinds of emotions, and I'm not ready for this. I've lived in a different state from them since I was 21 and they recently moved 7 miles from my house, so it's difficult to adjust and I find myself somewhat avoiding the situation because it's overwhelming and I feel it's going to adversely effect my life; in my career, my marriage and my own mental/physical health.