It's really hard to stay focused on what plan is best for mom. She has bad times, down times, but is still very physically able. Sometimes she seems near normal and I start thinking of a little more independence for her which she desperately wants. Then the next day she's off again. This is very hard on her too because she only sees or recognizes the good days and doesn't understand the restrictions the AL has about going outside alone, or walking to town. It seems we must plan for the bad days, which doesn't then allow her freedom on the good days. I think it's the right thing to do but it sure is hard. We get her out often but she wants her own freedom.