My father is 75 and has been suffering with Parkinson's Disease for at least 10 years now. He's a very kind and loving person. He worked most of his life working 2 jobs to provide the best for my mother and us kids.
My mother is healthy and loves to shop and spend money. She leaves my father alone by himself all the time. He falls all the time and broke his hip a couple years ago when she was gone all day. All of us kids want to help and be there for him. She won't let us in their home. She will only let us take him a day or 2 a month. And we can only keep him for a few hours, because he freezes up or loses his balance and can't walk. She wanted to kick him out of their house last year because she couldn't stand him anymore. I said I would take care of him, but, I need to be in charge of his health. I do not want any money. I just want to be sure he gets the best care. She blew up and threw me out of the house. She has become so unpredictable, controlling and paranoid. Over the years, she's verbally attacked my father horribly. She's yelled, You have dementia!! You have demnetia!! Even your brother's and kids do not want you!!! Dad was completely frozen from the Parkinson's when she did this. My 8 year old son heard and saw her do this to Dad, too. She has spoken like this to him on a dailey basis for years. Dad has told me he wants to leave there. But, when she gets in his face and yells at him and asks if he wants to go to the county nursing home, he will quietly say, No. She threatens all the time to put him in the county nursing home. My dad has worked hard and has the money to get at home help from nurses. HE is afraid of her. Everyone is afraid of her. She's always been a mean person. it's just gotten worse the older she gets. We want to help our Dad. But, everyone is so afraid of mother.
I hope someone can help!