Father, very elderly with many health problems is ready to move and just relax the remaining days of his life. He does not want to have to worry about pipes, bills, cars, driving etc. anymore. He just wants peace.
Mother has increasing dementia, COPD (no tank yet), diabetes, battle of breast cancer and we think sciatica but not sure as she won't go to doctor and have it checked out. She takes a break to lie down a good part of the day because she says she has back pain.
Have a 50ish aged brother with his 18 year old son living in the basement who are supposed to be looking after them and helping keep up the house. This has not been done.
Mother refuses to leave home as son does not have the means to have a place to live and she wants to remain in her home like her mother did. (Her mother did not have these type of health issues). Son has lived totally free for 15 years yet has NO savings whatsoever to speak of. Works an hourly job so if he does not work he does not get paid. Grandson never has had a job and only takes out garbage when reminded.
My parents can remain in their current house but with great health cost to them (especially my father) and great concern to other children or sell the house and go into assisted living. My father won't 'abandon' my mother and they can't afford 2 places. House continues to get run down every day as nothing has been updated in 40 years.