I am 25, my mom is 58. My family (dad and brother) and I have been noticing my mom's steady decline for a year or so. We have been asking her to go to the doctor, but she insists she is fine and COMPLETELY shuts down. She is not fine—last night she got up and ready for the day at 12:30am. She seems to be embarrassed of her decline and doesn’t want to talk about it. Us, on the other hand, are worried absolutely sick. Do we ease up and just let her decide when she’s ready? It’s hard to do so because it’s hard to watch. She lives with my dad because my brother and I are grown and out of the house. She is retired and stays home all day while my dad, 61, works. She does not cook for herself and has no social life. We are trying to let her know we love her and care about her and that’s why we want her to go, but it’s just not working.
We made sure the doctor was thoroughly informed ahead of time through a couple of discrete phone calls and several emails. She finally was given a cognitive examine and failed it totally. The downside is she's still convinced the state will realize its "sinful" and "unconstitutional" mistake and restore her license that they had "no reason" to take away. Actually, that's a very small price to pay for getting her to a doctor and for the peace of mind knowing she'll never drive again.
So tell your dad that if he really loves her, he will make an appt. for her and also take her, as living in denial helps no one. Good luck.