Mom has recently moved in with us. She's 90 and we're starting to suspect undiagnosed dementia. One of the minor issues that I'm trying to get a handle on is trying to deal with the differing nutritional values in our household. Mom has always been a big junk food eater. Her nutrition has always been horrible, shockingly so. I was unhealthy and severely overweight until I grew up, moved out of mom's house and learned about proper nutrition. These years later, when we started planning for her to move in with us we expected that there would need to be some compromises on both sides of the food issue. And I was very much willing to compromise. I just don't see a point in denying a 90 year old whatever she wants to eat. But her eating habits are far worse than I anticipated. She's addicted to sweets, pastries and frozen dinners. She won't eat a home cooked meal that I prepare because she wants frozen mac and cheese dinner instead. As I've mentioned, we suspect dementia is in play. She misunderstands things - A LOT. And she can't remember new information. So the discussion on this topic that I had anticipated having with her probably isn't in the cards. The kids are seeing all this junk food in the kitchen and they're constantly upset when I won't let them have what grandma is having. When I try to ease back on the junk food, my sugar addicted mom has a hissy fit. And I mean it. She's like a child. She gets so angry if she doesn't have her junk food. I just can't win. My husband and I have worked so hard to established good nutrition in our home over the years. I'm not trying to control mom's eating habits but I don't want them to exist at the cost of my family's nutrition either. Especially with summer right around the corner, I'm really concerned that the kids are going to start picking up grandma's terrible habits. (As for how she's getting the food, she goes shopping with her aide.) The aide suggested that mom keep her treats in her room. Husband pointed out how she leaves her used incontinence underwear all over her bedroom, we don't need her leaving food all over her room as well. Food needs to be stored in the kitchen. How do I strike a happy balance between moms food cravings and our nutritional values for our kids?