My 87 yr old grandmother's health has been declining rapidly. She moved in w/ my mother and I a few years ago but since truly declining, my aunt has also moved in w/ us to be w/ her full-time. Thing is, it's a small apartment which was meant to be only for my mother and I. My aunt and grandmother couldn't afford an apartment together so my mom was nice enough to allow this arrangement. There is not adequate space for 4 adults. I am the child in this situation, even though I am in my mid-twenties, and my thoughts are always pushed aside.
My grandmother has been hospitalized over 5 times since January for serious issues and even her primary care doctor recommended a nursing home/rehabilitation facility temporarily. She isn't very mobile, is incontinent, and needs a constant caretaker. It definitely takes a toll on my aunt but she feels placing her in a facility is "insulting". My mother and I want her to go to a facility to build herself up a little bit and have around the clock care. This is an ongoing battle and I am getting extremely drained from it. My mother dismisses it but it affects my life because I work nights and need to sleep during the day. I have thought about moving out but I am also in school and don't really make enough to support myself right now...maybe I can do so in a year or so.
Overall, I feel like my aunt is being extremely selfish but I am trying to avoid a battle. I have zero privacy now because my grandmother is in the room next to mine and so whenever she needs help, I hear everything.
I don't mean to come off selfish or cruel, but I know many of you may understand where I am coming from.
We also have to hear my aunt complain daily about how exhausted she is.
Do you guys have any advice? I'm desperate here.