I posted yesterday but I had no idea what I was doing so I'm going to try again. My mother has alzheimers, she is a very sweet person. I live in Texas, my sister lives in PA and my Mother lived in VA, at the time we discovered mom was having issues I was single with no family around in Texas so my sister said she would take her to live with her, the doctor said 24 hour a day care and she promised me that she had someone that would come everyday, I reluctantly took her back to my sister to find out in about one month that she had no one staying with mom in the day, next thing I know I find out that my mom had fallen while no one was home and had a huge black eye, there was no reason for her to be left alone, she has enough money set aside for her care but my sister just chose not to have anyone come in. When I found out what was going on I talked to my boyfriend, he moved in with me and we went to PA to get my mom. she has had a caregiver with her everyday since she came to live with us. At the time mom was going to stay with my sister the deal was that I would come every vacation a couple times a year to be with my mom while my sister got to get away on vacation, I felt this was very fair and I had no issues at all in doing this, I had always spend vacations at mom's in the past anyway. Well now we have had mom at our house for almost 2 years. We just got married in September, believe it or not my first marriage at 53, my new husband has a special needs son that lives with us he also is just a joy, we all have a lot of fun together. I guess what hurts so bad and is so stressful, I ask my sister if she would be coming down this year on vacation so we could get away and rest for a while and I got the same answer that she gave me last year, she did not remember saying I had to come there on vacation to give her a break, she was tired and needed to get away so no she was planning her vacation in Florida, We got into quite an argument, she is very selfish, she tells me all the time that she wishes she could help me with mom BUT the only thing she wants to do is bark orders and question everything that my mother buys. I never take any money for Mom's expenses actually she only pays for her personal items and to have her hair done, its very insulting being ask questions about stuff like this when we are the only ones trying to take care of my mom. I'm not asking for her to take her for any amount of time actually I don't think I would allow it because I do not feel like she would be happy there, before anything ever happened to mom she expressed that if she ever did have to live with one of us she hoped that it would be me. I truly love my mom I am fortunate that I have a husband like Tom he helps in every way and I love his son dearly we have quite the family and I'm very proud I just have so much anger inside concerning my sister, she even told me one day when she was mad that if I brought mom to her house she would put her straight in a home. Mom is no where ready for a home and unless its medically necessary I would not do that to her anyway. My sister tries to bring up stupid things about my mother that happened when we were little kids and to me its just a parent raising their children the best that they knew how to do. I'm so stressed between work, my job is very demanding, I come to work go home and stay with Mom and Brandon, my husband's work requires him to be gone for 2 weeks at a time and to here my sister tell me that she is tired and refuses to give me a break has almost broken me I have vitamin deficiency's and now I have been diagnosed with High blood pressure but my sister just continues to argue with me every chance she gets, she will twist thing to make herself feel better so I have just stopped talking to her pretty much. I just have no idea how people can turn their backs on there own Mother and family members and have no guilt about it at all.