My father is 90 years old. He has dementia, and everyday he is getting worse. He got UTI last month and he was hospitalized for few days now me and my two other sisters are taking care of him 24 hours of day every day. We divided the week and each get two or three days. My older sister is a nurse and she’s divorced and has 27 years old son living with him. I have two kids that are under 17. I told my sister to take our father to the nursing home but my older sister doesn’t want him to go. She says that I know in nursing home they will kill him. She says we have to take care of him and she said I don’t have a heart and if he dies in the nursing home it’s my fault because nurses in the nursing home they don’t care about their patients. I want to know is that true about nursing home and their staff???
With tears streaming down my cheeks, I took her to the center where she’d received her Medicaid rehabilitation and placed her as a patient.
The result? The happiest, healthiest, best provided for 5 1/2 years she’d lived since my father had died.
I am SO GRATEFUL to those who cared for her. Some were not perfect, but actually, most were.
The cost was significant, and worth EVERY SINGLE CENT.
Her last living sibling is now living in the same facility. I have asked my children to place ME there, if they ever feel that I would benefit from that kind of care.
Someone should probably break it to your sister that if your father is sick and old and has dementia, it is very likely that he will die. Somewhere. At home? At a well run care center? Loved and cherished by family who didn’t feel guilted into doing for him at the expense of their health? Somewhere.