Walk away is strong to say, but I'm at a loss. My mother and I have always had a tumultuous relationship. She is 82 and suffering from dementia. I have been caring for her for nearly 8 years, living with her the past 3 years. Her dementia became noticeable a few years ago. She's moderate to mid stage. And I feel now rapidly declining. She is an alcoholic, although never admitted it. She still she spends countless hours a day drinking wine and reading. She has no other family. Neither do I. My life is no longer mine. I moved in with her after my divorce. She lives in Oregon, so for a years I from Texas, all the time to check up on her. Moving in with her seemed logical, given the upheaval of my life at the time. It started out fair. An adjustment, but I hate where she lives. She won't move. I'm isolated, and the stress of looking after her, has created a barrier between my friends in Texas. I don't know how much time she has left. I'm barely able to take care of myself. Exhausted. I too am an alcoholic and fell off the wagon given the stress of it all. I've even ended up in the hospital from a drunken injury. I love my mother, I do. But I'm in over my head, and we can't afford a full time care taker. How do I leave her though, I feel awful, but I'm afraid she'll die under my care at this rate, because I barely can get out of bed myself. I can't live with her anymore, and I don't know what else to do, because I don't want to abandon her, but also feel as though I have abandoned myself.