He has been wearing a depend for 5 yrs now. He is only incontinent with urinating. I urge him 2 or 3 times a day to get up and try and go in the toilet because he can. He always says he doesn't have to urinate but he always has a wet depend. He says they aren't wet. I'm assuming he can't feel the wetness. Plus I like him to get up off his chair and move about some . If I ask or tell him to go try to use the toilet more than this he refuses and looks at me like im crazy...... any ideas???