My 78 year old mom has been with her "boyfriend" close to 20 years. They have never gotten married because mom gets alimony for life unless she gets remarried. Jack the boyfriend is Canadian so he has to go back to canada 6 months out of the year the other 6 he spends here in Arizona. Mom doesn't like it there so about 7 years ago it started. She comes here at 6pm and goes to her perfectly good paid for house in the morning. She is afraid to be alone. In the beginning jack left in April and came back to get her in June or July. This last year she decided to stay here all summer. Mom never worked and had a good financial life with my dad. She doesn't have any friends or hobbies, she wants our (my husband and myself) undivided attention when she is here, you know the only time my hubby and I have together! We have a 20 year old son who does his own thing. He's really a great kid although it's bugging him too. Every weekend she wants us to entertain her. Its hot here (120) in the summer and we dont want to go shopping or out to eat. She was a good mom but very needy she cant even pump her own gas! We offered her if she sells her house she could build a casita in our backyard or add a master bedroom and living room onto our house. She can't make a move without asking her gold digging husband as she likes to call him. I had his number years ago, all she is to him is a paycheck and a roof over his head in the winter. He needs more privacy so selling her house and building at my house is out of the question. My privacy never gets mentioned! She gives me maybe $150 foe electric while she's here. She brings coffee and toilet paper every few weeks too. This summer was horrible! I was laid off from my job, first time ever not working she never offers to help monetarily.we asked her for 500 to help she him haad around about how she would have to take it from savings blah blah blah! Fast forward to today jack has been back since October I'm only working part time so i asked her to help me her response... You guys still owe me 500 dollars! WTH? So i have a extra room that i could rent out or even have friends come visit me but can't because my mom is in a f*uped relationship and has to stay with us. Sorry if im babbling im so angry now! I will not let her stay here again and if that means the end of our relationship then so be it i cant do it again! She jas the best of both worlds. She doesnt do anything here becise something always hurts she offers to do the laundry well we all know everyone has their own way of folding so that really wouldn't help me. Her house is like a museum nothing ever out of place my house is always clean, beds made, no dishes in the sink but i dont always for example file my bills right away ill leave stuff on the counter but always tidy and she will tell me more than once you need to put this or that away. If i don't jump she gets all huffy. OMG somebody help me please i dont know what to do! My husband is the most laid back guy he supports whatever decision i make. Thanks!