She has Alzheimer's with times of clarity and will find this humiliating. Mom is in mid-late stage Alzheimer's. She claims she is doing "just fine" but now needs help dressing, forgets family members, and has some delusions (often involving me having done something behind her back). She has enough times of clarity along with a real fear of losing more capabilities that I think she will feel humiliated and be oppositional, angry, and suspicious. Do I arrange to tell her in the presence of her pastor? Best friend? Lawyer? My Alzheimer's Assoc counselor? Privately? How do I explain so she understands what guardianship will mean to her?