How do I talk my mom into moving to my husband's home after 56 years in her home?

Over and Over, I've read stories here where the mom of a spouse and the other spouse just don't fit and the result in the marriage goes downhill. When you have a parent move in with you or you move in with them, it is too easy for them to start treating you like a child again which is not good.

I see from your profile that you have recently married. How recent? How does he feel about this idea?

I think that you need to move in with your husband and get your marriage off to a good start and find an assisted living place for your mom.

How long has your mother had to get used to your husband, first of all? I read that you are recently married, but have you and she known him for several years or not as long as all that?

The reason I ask is that she's already having to make one major adjustment, to welcome him as her son in law. Uprooting her at this point, unless she's open to the idea and also likes his house, might demand too much of her. Do you have to make the decision an either/or, just like that, or could there be a transitional phase?

Why don't you just move into your husbands home? Start a new life for you and your husband. You have paid your dues to your mother, either get her in house day care or consider finding a nice facility for her.