My mother recently turned 92. A trip to the ER a couple months ago landed her in the hospital, and then into skilled nursing. When she is released, she will go to an assisted living facility. The problem is, I am the only person who is responsible for her care. My sister lives in another state, too far to do anything but the occasional visit. My brother is in England. He contributes by making phone calls, arranging for her admissions, and taking care of insurance. That is helpful, but it still doesn't equate to the day after day wear and tear of caring for my mother. She has never been a pleasant person, even before she became older. She has driven away all friends and family members. It has been such a relief to me to have her in skilled nursing where I don't have to worry about her safety, hygiene, dressing, medications, or the dozens of other things that are required. In order for her to have a room reserved for her in AL, it is necessary to have all of her things moved from her apartment within 10 days. Of course, this again falls on me. To say I am burned out is an understatement. I need to take some time for mental health breaks, but when I don't go to see her for a few days, I end up feeling guilty. When I go back to see her after being gone, she'll tell me that everybody was asking where I was. This is her not so subtle way of letting me know that SHE wondered where I was and why I wasn't there. How can I take much needed breaks for myself and not let the guilt consume me? I admire all of you who post on this website. Until someone has "walked in our shoes" they have no idea how grueling and exhausting being a caregiver is.