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I took care of my mother for 4 years in my home. She passed away 10 months ago. Then I was taking care of my husband who had Alzheimers and Parkinson's disease. He passed away about 5 months ago. Then my niece passed away. She lived about 500 miles away and had been very ill. I am alone and cry daily. My sister-in-law is trying to take care of me by visiting daily and telling me what to do. I wish she would leave me alone, but that would hurt her feelings. Any suggestions?

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Can you afford to go somewhere. Where I live we have beach towns 2 hrs away. Even if its a hotel room where you can get away. You maybe a person that grieves better alone. Some people need people around them. Tell your SIL, nicely, that you have appreciated what she has done for you but you feel you need some alone time now. Just time to yourself to think thru what your next step will be.
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You've been through a lot and now you need time to grieve, by yourself.
There is nothing wrong with telling your sister-in-law that while you appreciate her concern that you really just need time to yourself now to process the grief you're experiencing, and that you will call her if you need her.
If that hurts her feelings, that is on her not you. She needs to be respectful of what it is YOU need and not what she needs. I'm sure she feels that she's doing right by you, and if you don't say something you'll never get the time you so desperately need to properly grieve the people you loved and lost, on your own terms and not someone else's.
I am sorry for all your loss. Please now make sure that you're taking care of yourself and taking all the time you need to grieve your loved ones as they deserve that much.
God bless you.
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I’m sorry for the many recent losses.

You are grieving and depressed .
Depressed people push people away who try to help them . ( your sister in law ). I’m suspecting your sister in law “ telling you what to do “ is telling you to get help and/or do something other than cry all day . Perhaps what or how she says it is not helpful , many people don’t know the best things to say in these situations .

Go to your doctor for antidepressants , and a therapist , find a grief support group .
A professional can help you in ways your sister in law can’t .
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You cry because you are alone, but you don't want the one person that is coming over daily to help you.

Are you sure you know what you want?
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