I gave up my career at 57 to take care of my Mom full time. She passed 4 years ago. I live with dad in our family home and he is very independent drives shops cooks for himself yard work etc. He totally pushes me away from doing anything in the house. He interferes into me decluttering or organizing anything - has taken over the kitchen to the point where I don’t cook or buy much for myself as my things are just in his way. It was never like this when mom was living we cooked cleaned and enjoyed each other’s company. MY DAD DOESNT EVEN Speak TO ME only to tell me to take one piece of paper towel or close the window or to complain about the heating or electric bill. I leave every day and have joined moving on groups, go out with friends, studying for my paralegal and don’t come back till mid evening.
Why is he doing this to me? I want to enjoy and make my home my own but he wants no improvements made. I am at wits end and feel I can’t be myself or even have women friends over because he complains about everyone. Constantly watches what I’m doing - I can’t even do girly things like put away my jewelry, makeup or organize my closets because he complains about those things. I am just 😞 sad. Please I ask why is he doing this to me and doesn’t he realize that I don’t stay at home because I can’t stand living with his nastiness. He cooks and eats for himself but never asks if I want anything. He could care less whether I’ve eaten or not. I’m 62 and feel like I can’t be myself because of him.
The past 18 months have been brutal with brothers highly contested divorce and I have been a supportive sister which my brother tells me he truly appreciates. Still no judgement from the court after trial last August. We were all involved including dad giving testimony as brothers soon to be ex wants part of our house and assets too. We both testified on brothers behalf saying that no way should she be entitled as I was caregiver to Mom and none of our assets were part of brother’s marital estate. Judge said our assets were off the table. But she is still asking for everything in her proposed judgement.