This guy has been around a short 5 years. She has changed dramatically. She’s kicked him out several times for stealing. But then let’s him back in. And says he hasn’t stolen anything from me. The day I met him, two safes were taken full of money and jewelry worth thousands. He told her me and my boys did it. The detective knows better because he knows this felon. Yes criminal felon. He got my mom on street drugs talked her into getting a face lift and she was in the hospital about a month as he was at her home going through and stealing anything he could get his hands on. I tried to step in but he finds a way to keep me out. She doesn’t trust me anymore. I’ve called APS three times alls they told me after the investigations was she can live with who ever she wants and do drugs if she wants. My mom can not handle her financial affairs or bathing driving etc. her house has gotten so disgusting he doesn’t clean or do dishes. She has locked herself into her bedroom and lives in there with all her belongings. He’s sleeping in another room. She hasn’t had a shower in a very very long long time and won’t wash herself or her hair. There is mice and rat poop everywhere and the house reeks. APS has seen this they will not step in to help. Because she keeps sticking up for this guy saying there is nothing wrong with him and he doesn’t steal. He also has girlfriends that come over and steal things for him. Mom sent me home with grandmothers silver and all of my moms jewelry lots of it. When mom was in the hospital he put his lock on the door to the room she had her safes and jewelry in. So she had me bring the things home. Now he has found out that I have all that’s left of the expensive things in my moms life and is trying to get my mom to get them back from me. I am reluctant to do so because I know for sure if I do the items will never be seen again. He and his friends already stole everything and my grandparents that they could and destroyed their home. I had to fix it because they left it in the trust to me and mom. Now he is trying to get my mom to sign over her house to him because I have one. She told me she is getting robbed daily. And now wants me to bring her stuff back. She said she bought another safe so it will be safe ha he has every combination to all her safes and there isn’t anything left other than what she gave me. Now if I bring her stuff back I’m putting her at danger . She told me never put anything in a safe because a robber can just hold a gun to your head and have you open it. I don’t know what to do. Everything I read says call APS and I’ve done that three times already in the last five years they thing I’m the crazy one. Mom and him told them not to listen to me because I do drugs. Ha I’ve never done drugs. I was a bus driver and an RN. They did drug screens all the time. Our family doctor knows better and he knows all about mom’s situation and wrote a letter that she could no longer take care of herself and says this guy is bad news because he has to kick mom off his patients list because he found drugs in her system. I hired an attorney a few years ago thinking they could help. But everyone is listening to my mom and this guy. I have doctors letters and hospital records showing mom isn't cared for and doing drugs. I don’t know what to do. For people worried about APS doing something don’t because they don’t do anything to help. They come across as lazy to me. They told me a judge would laugh at them if they tried to take my mom’s rights away. I don’t want to take her rights away I just want this guy out of her life so she can be normal somewhat again. As long as he is there he will continue to turn her against everyone so he can have control. My mom always trusted me until he came along and kept me away and gave mom these drugs. Now she is hooked and she can’t live with out him or the drugs. What can I do. I’m supposed to take our family heirlooms back next week. I’ll never see them again.
He needs to be evicted any way possible. This post seems very similar to one posted recently. If so have you been able to make any progress. You should be able to change the locks. Remove her from the house for the time being hopefully after locks are changed. Notify police of drug activity. She needs to be declared incompetent by all sources available meaning legal and medical. It will probably get unpleasant but then it is more so now. You may have to get very forceful. If certain parties are not complying then try very hard to get to superiors involved and mention their lack of action could lead to legal action. This has to change now. You have to dig in and contact as many sources possible and strongly mention elder abuse and fraud. I feel as though I suggested this before. Elder abuse and fraud related situations are not taken lightly. There are areas of government that deal with this solely. If the conditions in the house are so abhorrent then she clearly is not of sound mind. But you have to really dig in and not let up with as many sources possibe such as legal, police, medical etc. I hope you can turn this situation around. In the best of circumstances it doesn't sound that your mother should be living in a house situation on her own..
Put the ball back in their court. I doubt they’ll call the police or do anything legal to pursue the matter - they’re not gonna want to call any attention to themselves from any authorities- not if all the drugs and such are happening as you’ve stated.