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The neurologist needs to assess your MIL in her natural state, so don't prep her. It's a test of how she is day-to-day, as opposed to one in which you want her to "do well," so to speak. (PS - this is on the basis that she is already being kept well-informed, as she clearly is and well done to you.)

In terms of how to describe recent decline, keeping a journal with examples such as the one you've given is a good idea. I'm sure you know better than I do that Parkinson's effects can sometimes become unfortunately florid and the neurologist will no doubt want to nip in the bud anything that seems to be developing.

Medications: let "take your medication as prescribed" be your mantra. Parkinson's meds are finely adjusted right down to timing and mustn't be mucked about with. Reassure your mother that any untoward symptoms will be reported regularly so that her doctor can do the adjusting, but she must stick to the regime.
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Perhaps the best approach would be to the doctor rather than MIL. Send a letter setting out your concerns before the appointment. Take a copy with you to the appointment, and hand it in just before you go in (just in case the doctor didn’t read the first one). You can tell the doctor what you think would be the best approach after the test – to tell her the ‘bad news’ outright, to soft pedal on it, or to stick to advice about how to go forward. Doctor doesn’t have to ‘diagnose dementia’, perhaps just say something like ‘you’re starting to get mixed up a bit, but your DIL can set you straight if you are worried’. Good luck, and best wishes to all of you!
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I have done this with my mom. The doctor then told her the news
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