My loved one has been in Assisted Living for 8 months. She does ask once in a while if she can afford to live there, to which I answer yes. Now she says that soon she wants to go over how much it has cost her to live there. She also wants to see her longterm investment paperwork. It took me a long time to put all of the ducks in a row re: her finances. I don't want to show her what is happening now. The cost of the ALF is much more than she thinks it is. Also, I think she wants to see how much money she has, because she wants to buy a car (thankfully I got that out of her life at the same time she started living in the ALF). I am keeping very careful records about the spending I am doing from her accounts toward her care. I don't want her to obsess about not being able to see her finances - in a similar vein, she asked me to bring some fairly valuable jewelry to her, and when I wouldn't, she obsessed about it for months. I need to figure out a way to avoid showing her her finances without it becoming a big deal. She is a very stubborn person.