My husband’s mother is 69 and has a catalog of autoimmune diseases and retired on disability in 2010. Since 2016 she has been living in our basement apartment after she was unable to continue paying rent. She receives $1100 per month in Social Security which she uses to pay for Medicare, medicine and food (she isn’t comfortable sharing her finances). She has no other income or assets, so we pay for everything else (car, phone, fancy recliner, dental bills, utility bills, etc.) and claim her as a dependent for tax purposes. We have two young children. Our son was born shortly before we moved to our new house in 2016, and in the new baby/working mom haze I didn’t have enough energy to look into other housing options for my husband’s mother, including public housing or living with other family members. Both are opposed to any form of public housing assistance due to the “stigma”, and she doesn’t want to ask either of her two sisters for help (they are not local). My husband has been reluctant to talk to her about all housing options, and our marriage has been affected by the constant money drain and my less than positive feelings towards my husband’s mother. She has not wanted (or been able) to help out at all, saying she is too sick to clean, cook or take care of the kids. I work a stressful, full time job and also manage the bulk of parenting, housekeeping and bills for everything, so I’m at my wits end about how to move my husband’s mother out. I would have left a while back but don’t think it’s fair to my husband or kids. Any advice is greatly appreciated!